We don’t know if Elliot Rodger was mentally ill. We don’t know if he was a “madman.” We do know that he was desperately lonely and unhappy, and that the Men’s Rights Movement convinced him that his loneliness and unhappiness was intentionally caused by women.
Because this is what the Men’s Rights Movement does: it spreads misogyny, it spreads violence, and most of all it spreads a sense of entitlement towards women’s bodies.
Pretending that this is the a rare act perpetrated by a “crazy” person is disingenuous and also does nothing to address the threat of violence that women face every day. We can’t just write this one off – we need to talk about all of the fucked up parts of our culture, especially the movements that teach men that they have the right to dominate and intimidate and violate women, that lead to this, and we need to change things. Because if we don’t, I guarantee that this will happen again. And again. And again.
Gender violence has occurred with such frequency for so long in this country that many people are no longer alarmed by how common it is. It is the status quo, an unremarkable feature of the social landscape.

What is perhaps even more disturbing is that in this culture, many people see gender violence as a problem of sick or damaged individuals, and not as a social phenomenon that’s causes—and solutions—lie in much larger social forces. So let me be clear. There is no such thing as an isolated incident of rape, battering, sexual abuse, or sexual harassment. These are not merely individual pathologies. It is not enough for us to ask in each case: “What went wrong in his life?” “Why would he do something like that?” These problems are much too widespread for us to think about them in such narrow terms.
I think he is grumpy at me for working so much…

I think he is grumpy at me for working so much…

I gave him his own blanket to snuggle in to sleep and he absolutely LOVES it… He climbs in his own bed and snuggles under his blankets on his own and then just listens to Jane Eyre as we head to sleep. Best dog ever! I Love him so much!! 🐺💗😴

I gave him his own blanket to snuggle in to sleep and he absolutely LOVES it… He climbs in his own bed and snuggles under his blankets on his own and then just listens to Jane Eyre as we head to sleep. Best dog ever! I Love him so much!! 🐺💗😴

While I am a die-hard Jane Austen fan since I was 8 years old, the older I get and the more times I read Jane Eyre, the more I feel that Bronte was able to write a much more in depth character that I can truly relate to albeit in a much heavier story arc…

While I am a die-hard Jane Austen fan since I was 8 years old, the older I get and the more times I read Jane Eyre, the more I feel that Bronte was able to write a much more in depth character that I can truly relate to albeit in a much heavier story arc…

I <3 this picture @ohthataaronbrown took of me last year :)

I <3 this picture @ohthataaronbrown took of me last year :)